About Lovesleftovers

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” Thoughout our lives we’ll experience the joy of love, the heartbreak of loss and the wonderment of life.”  Lovesleftovers

Lovesleftovers – I chose the name because I sometimes feel like I’ve ended up with someone’s leftover love. People who are lost, don’t know what they want or just looking to kill time are often drawn to me. I used to think it was random, but now I think maybe I draw these people to me. It’s a vibe I give off I guess. Maybe I was shitty to others in a past life. Karma is a bitch. It’s not so bad I guess. I usually learn a little something from each relationship I’ve had. What to do, what not to do, how not to hurt someone, how not to get hurt. I’ve decided that relationships are difficult and sometimes I think that they’re not worth the time and trouble. Wow…I’m getting too melancholy here. I’m more fun than that.

I try to see humor in everything. I think everyone has a story. Sometimes I think I’m the only one with problems then I listen to someone else’s troubles and I realize I’m not alone. It’s all part of life and as long as you learn a lesson from each experience and you don’t make the same mistakes over and over you’ll be okay. I think, at times, that I’m the only person who’s a product of a dysfunctional family and then I meet someone who tells me that, when she was 14, her mom moved without telling her and she had no place to live. Or I talk to a friend who tells me she grew up having to take care of her younger siblings because her mom was a heroine addict. Or someone’s mom had no money so she resorted to robbing convenience stores, got caught and is now in jail. Those are true stories people have told me. I’ve decided that everyone is dysfunctional in some way or another.

I don’t think true love exists. People say they’re in love and then they get married and end up hating each other. They’re still the same people as when they first met. Most adults are already set in their ways so what’s the surprise? People knew what they were getting into when they got married. What was quirky before marriage becomes a major issue soon after.  No wonder why half of all marriages end in divorce. I’m sour on marriage. My parents have been married and divorced to each other 4 times. I don’t get it. My brother was married, divorced his wife, then remarried her. My other brother was married, divorced and then married someone else. I was married and my marriage ended. I was my ex’s second wife. Is it possible that divorce runs in families? Interesting question and maybe I’ll eventually do some research.  ~lovesleftovers~

**Update***Update*****May 2011
Wow, do I need to update this profile or what?! So much has happened since I wrote this back in 2007. And it all seems to fly in the face of what I’ve written here. Serves me right for being a know-it-all! I moved from Upstate New York to North Texas in 2009 after a messy breakup and near breakdown. Not fun times at all. I went on a leave of absence from my dead end job and eventually took a transfer. I met my future husband at work and got married in 2010.  Just goes to show you that when you least expect it life comes up behind you and slaps you on the head 🙂

***Please, if you mention my blog or a blog post in your own writing I simply ask that you include a link back to my blog. It takes me time to write, edit, post and answer comments and would greatly appreciate the recognition. I have seen my blog mentioned many times in other writings and not one single link back to my blog. That, in my opinion, is just about as bad as plagiarism and that’s a no-no in my book. It’s unfair to me as a writer. So if you like it and mention it in writing please give me the proper credit. Thanks!

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6 thoughts on “About Lovesleftovers

  1. Hmm… my mum and dad divorced… my sister married and divorced two guys…. I married and divorced one – I don’t COUNT him ..I left because he was physically abusive … and then … I met my husband! We are very alike, we can leave the other to choose tv channels, yet we have enough of a difference not to be bored! We have never had a real argument – oh .. one or two …’What the hell do you think you are doing dropping that wet towel on the bed” type of things… but arguments, no. We have been married for 33 years and have two children and two grandchildren. We have just retired to Portugal and we love it.

    My husband and I were friends first, and met doing a martial art – I think being friends helped as we really knew a fair amount about each other and therefore had similar interests.

    Don’t give up … if you ‘give up’ on the inside, it shows on the outside and I think the universe responds to that and sends you … what you expected !! Good luck….now go out there and knock ‘his’ socks off !!! lol!!

    • Thanks so much for your encouraging words tealrose1. After I read your comment I realized I had better go back and update my “about me” page. As you can see your words had come true! Thanks again. Have a fabulous day 🙂

  2. Hey! I hope you are doing great. I wanted to ask you for a favor. My younger sister is pursuing her masters in Psychology, and she is currently taking a course called Neuropsychology. For that, she needs to do a case study of someone who has faced, and conquered bipolar disorder. As a welcome coincidence, I stumbled upon your blog. If you are comfortable about that, kindly shoot me an e-mail at shashank.maurya2020@gmail.com. I can connect you with her. Thanks in advance.

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